Book thoughts

I Hope This Book Becomes Boring One Day

So I read this book, I Wish You All the Best by Mason Deaver. I haven’t read a YA book in a while (and by while I mean a few months). This one is definitely stereotypical easy read about basic high school life with an uncomplicated storyline. What sets it apart, though, is that the main character is nonbinary.

I feel like I do a really good job at picking books based on cover and/or author name. I don’t even read the synopsis anymore and I try to only look at ratings rather than reviews. I want to come in with zero expectations, except for what I get face value.

From the cover, I could tell it was going to be a YA book, potentially about a gay teen couple because there were what seemed like two boys on the cover. My interest was waning almost immediately in the first few “pages” (in quotes since it was an audiobook) until the main character came out as nonbinary to their parents. Then I was hooked.

I was hooked not in a way that made me feel like this was one of the greatest pieces of literary art I have ever consumed, but I am always interested in learning about a different perspective since I had never read a book by or about a nonbinary person.

I have read other LGBTQ books before (actually, I don’t think I have read a book centered around a trans character. Not yet anyway!). Those were different. I didn’t read them really to gain perspective into lives I don’t know much about. Don’t get me wrong; I don’t know much about living as a queer person, because I am a cis, straight-passing person. I mean, I love seeing the point of view of people who are different from me (and who aren’t cis-het white people). I just read those books as if the characters are everyday people living life and falling in love. I just don’t exoticize them, like they are freakshows on display.

I don’t think I articulated those thoughts very well.

This book seems different than other LGBTQ (will the acronym expand to include NB for nonbinary? Or GNC for gender nonconforming? There are just too many identities to try to encapsulate in an acronym without leaving people out) books I’ve read because I just haven’t met anyone nonbinary. And I don’t want it to seem like I’m picking now to exoticize nonbinary folks. I just think this is the first time I get to examine my privilege not only as a cis person, but one who identifies within the binary.

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CW one slide mentions transphobia and racism. There's an ableist slur too. . Ok after seeing this behaviour too many times – I’m exhausted. I’m exhausted of having to interact with people calling themselves “allies” who actually manipulate and cause violence in my space. Towards me or other people in my community. Instagram will only let me post 10 slides so this will be part one. I would like for❣❣❣ NO WHITE CIS PPL ❣❣❣❣to comment on this. And I say specifically white people because all of the harassers were white! And it continues to come from white people! Just read it, and don’t act like this in the future. If I do see this behaviour on my posts I will be calling you out or just deleting you. . The reason marginalised people have their own spaces is because they have been excluded. If I create a space for trans people, don’t assume that it’s okay for you to start giving self centered monologues and taking up the majority of space. I will be deleting all comments like this in the future. You don’t get a cookie for deciding that other people are human beings. And you don’t get a cookie for coming into a space that isn’t for you and demanding that you be educated and coddled like a big baby. I’m 100000% done with this behaviour. . Also Its extremely interesting to see how many cis WHITE lgbq folx came out yesterday to straight up watch me get harrassed or to defend the honour of the violent cishet men and women who were coming for me. LGB people have NO excuse to sit back and take sides with oppressors – and it's a reason why I'd love for you all to stay away from my post today. You were no better than the people in this post. .

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With my trans friends, it’s been easy. I just switch their pronouns. Reading (i.e. listening) this book, I see even more struggles other than getting people to switch pronouns to they, them. Ben, the main character, talks about dressing rooms, clothes, and people gendering them in other ways. I didn’t realize how freaking gendered our language is!

I use a lot of gendered language in my daily life. I never mean it to address a certain gender. I say “guys” and call everyone the B word. In my mind, these are gender neutral terms because I am using it to address everyone. After reading this book, I know that it’s not about me knowing my intent; it’s about how people interpret it (I should know this from all the frustration I experience with microaggressions).

I’ll just stick to saying y’all as I have started to do. I’m from the south, so it works.

Part of me is kinda glad this book has an uncomplicated plot. This kid shouldn’t have to deal with homelessness or drugs or being beaten to have a hard time. Nonbinary kids are just kids and they deserve the mundane too.

One day hopefully, this book will become so boring because being nonbinary isn’t a big deal and won’t be a major plot point!

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